I was talking to girl friend of mine the other day. She was, well, more like a sister to me. Known her since 1996. Discussed about life, reminiscing the good times we've had and shared our problems, like we used to. I mean it's not we live alone on a remote island that we have to coop up our feelings and emotions within us.
It's a cliche to say that everyone has their problems, yet, it is the truth and a fact. No one in this world can be happy forever and escape problems. It is all relative, a problem you have may seem trivial to me but not to you, likewise with a problem I have. Everyone thinks they have the biggest problems in the world. Actually, every problem we face is a big problem. Else, it wouldn't be a problem in the first place.
I read somewhere that to solve a problem, you have to admit that there is a problem. Denial will only delay the solution. Finding a solution is tricky though, especially if the problem involves the people around us. Dealing with ourselves is easy, but dealing with people is tough, to put it mildly. Worse, especially if emotions are involved as well.
It's easier said than done to deal with our issues objectively. It is amazing to see such discussions to resolve outstanding issues can quickly degenerate into slanging matches, replete with wild gesticulating, swearing and uncouth remarks. All because we let our emotions into the discussion.
While it is difficult to control what the other party has to say, it's imperative that we control our own emotions to ensure the situation does not get out of hand. Easier said than done? It's all about making the right choice.
Hopefully, I've made the right choices in dealing with my own problems.
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